It’s highly likely that at some point you’ve erred in bed. Maybe you smoothed over whatever misstep you made with your quick wit and sly smile, or you crashed and burned without a return call the next day. For the many who have yet to figure out the way to recover from such blunders, there is help. Read on and practice your newfound knowledge.
You don’t have to be a Casanova—smooth, suave and completely at ease—in order to be a good lover. But a few elbows in the head, maybe pinning her hair to the bed, and knocking foreheads or teeth can indeed put your more pleasurable antics on hold. But just like a singer on stage or an actor in a play, when you stumble and make a slip, you have to keep going without hesitation and delay. Push through little mistakes. If you don’t dwell on the negative, she won’t either. If you fuss about your accidental bumps, she’ll definitely be put off. Keep the mood unbroken and your bruises and scrapes the proud war wounds of incredibly hot sex.
It’s happened. After a meal, some drinks, carbonation… and voila! Some excess air starts building in pressure and it has two options: going up or down. Burping near her, in her mouth while kissing is something to avoid, and so is letting go of some noisome stomach pressure down below. Still, when it’s an accident, all you can do is laugh about it. Women will appreciate your joking nature. Funny noises during sex are common. When you think about it, most sounds we make are grotesque, but everyone makes them, so they’re forgivable. Even little miss hottie underneath you writhing away makes noises that are less-than-pleasant sometimes. So, crack a joke—and maybe a window—and go back to giving her a great time.
You can tell that you’ve made a mistake when that cricket screeching in the background is the only noise that’s heard after you tell her something you think is particularly sexy. When she doesn’t know how to respond to your dirty talk or when she takes offense to what you say, do not respond aggressively or reciprocally. Don’t get upset. Continue to soothe and state that you are just talking dirty for fun. However, it is best to switch your use of profanity to descriptions of how she’s making you feel, what she feels like to you, etc. You can still use imagery artistically to create that erotic environment where she feels a little wild and free to talk back.
Revealing a fetish
Reveal too much too soon and you’re in trouble. A second date is not the time to break out the toys, ropes and videos. Be sure of your safe reception. Revealing personal details too soon can ruin the potential of a developing relationship. Treat fetishes like a relationship topic. This kind of discovery does not occur until much later within the confines of a stable relationship.
She may ask, but unless you are certain she knows enough about you and about herself to support this kind of knowledge, you are risking to be ridiculed and meeting the end of a possible sexually experimental connection. If you have to tell her about your secret stash of homemade porn, break it to her gently and assure her you won’t progress to that stage until she is ready and feels secure, if at all. The object is to make her feel respected and safe knowing you will understand her wishes to either experience your fetish with you or pass on it.
Crossing her boundaries
If you cross a line, such as trying anal without asking and waiting for her consent, be prepared for her refusal and maybe her hasty exit. Trust is the biggest issue. She is vulnerable during sex and trusts you to value her boundaries. If you find that you have made some blatant transgression, don’t make a huge deal out of it or move your hands or position to a completely new spot. Just stop the offending action in a smooth transition to another more pleasurable activity for her.
Finishing too soon
If it’s been a while, don’t let her know. She’ll know enough when you secretly make her “one-minute man” list. Though it would be perfect sex to make her experience shattering multiple orgasms that have her screaming in pleasure, it may have felt too damn good for you to hold back. Coming quickly isn’t something you want to do all the time, but when you do, don’t apologize. Instead, play on her vanity as an exceptionally sexy woman — one that made you lose all control. Say something like, “Wow, you are too hot, I just couldn’t hold it in any longer.” This way, she’ll take your premature ejaculation as a compliment whereas, if you apologize, she’ll see it as a flaw. To make up for your quickie performance, give her the best oral of her life until you regain your upright stature.
Taking too long
Here’s the opposite of the above problem. Some men, like some women, take a little too long to orgasm. Women may feel numb—and even sore—after a while of continual pounding, and men may feel like a robot. A great solution would be to discontinue the action under an acceptable guise such as a bathroom break. When you return, it will be easier for both parties to move on from there. If she feels guilty about you not getting yours, let her know she can get you back at any opportunity.
Don’t dwell on mistake
Mistakes and blunders will be part of anyone’s sexual life. What matters is how you recover and move on. You can save any night from ending prematurely by using your wit and charm. Don’t dwell on mistakes and keep the laughter going. Transition smoothly between blunder and bliss, and she won’t remember anything but the explosive and utterly addicting end.
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